Donate Life

  Mr. Loco was most excellent. He would do anything he could to help someone out. He wasn’t put out by it. It was just how he was. Kind. Helpful. Thoughtful. He was also a big fan of random acts of kindness. He loved to buy coffee for the people behind him in line or … More Donate Life

Time Keeps Passing

Time keeps on ticking by. The world keeps spinning. We keep walking around the sun. Nothing stops for grief. At first I was majorly offended by this idea. There I was a recent widow and people were going about their lives. Facebook was my proof. They were posting about the most trivial things. They were … More Time Keeps Passing

Birthday Love

Just a short birthday note: Today is Mr Loco’s birthday. He would have been 41 today. I would have spent the day giving him a hard time about being older than me…you know, for the next 3 months. I would have also secured a blueberry pie. Instead, we spent the day traveling. We are back … More Birthday Love

Before and After

I have so many ideas that pop into my mind but the moment isn’t right to sit down and write. Can I think of any of those topics again when I have a sleeping child? NEVER. The topics I end up writing about are the ones that pop up again and again and I basically … More Before and After

Happy 40th Mr Loco

Today would have been Mr Loco’s 40th birthday. I am making a concentrated effort to not focus on what should have been. It is easy to fall down the rabbit hole of would have/could have/should have. Today I am trying to focus on honoring Mr Loco, appreciating every little way he continues to play an … More Happy 40th Mr Loco

Rough Spots

I always knew that I would have to have the conversation about Mr Loco dying numerous times over the course of Baby Loco growing up. I knew she would be going through the stages of grief over the course of her childhood. I have been very honest with Baby Loco. I have explained what I … More Rough Spots